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Principles · Journal · 12 June 2026

Five rules we do not bend

Seven years in, the group is larger and the rooms are not. These are the five rules that explain why, written down the way we actually apply them.

Small group, low light, real conversation

Rules are easy to publish and hard to keep. Ours survive because each one has a price we have already agreed to pay: a sponsor turned down, a chair left empty, a request declined. Here they are, with the price attached.

01 · No seat is for sale

Sponsors fund the room; they never fill it. The guest list is decided before any money is discussed, which occasionally costs us a partner and always saves the room.

02 · The chart is the product

Two weeks on a seating plan for twenty-four people is normal here. It is not perfectionism; it is the whole job. Anyone can fill a room. Few can compose one.

03 · Nothing leaves with names

No recordings, no guest list, no photos of the room. Ideas travel; attribution does not. It is the reason people say in our rooms what they will not say on a stage.

04 · Small on purpose

Thirty-four seats is not a constraint we regret. Past sixty, a table stops being a conversation and starts being an audience, and audiences are a different business, one we are not in.

05 · We say no more than yes

Four in five requests are declined, usually with a better evening suggested instead. The no is not a rejection; it is the reason the yes means something.

Ninety-two per cent of members return the following year. We think it is because of the rules, especially the ones that cost us.

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